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Refinement Retreat for Women

  • Her Sanctuary 1438 Hertel Ave Buffalo United States (map)

Realistic Expectations (for self and others) & Boundary Development
”This journey focuses on exploring relationships with those in our lives and determining healthy boundaries to increase overall relationship quality and emotional well-being.  We are seeking to discover relationships that are depleting, unbalanced, and stressful while also supporting the refinement of these relationships through boundary development and limit setting. “

hosted by: Lisa Balderman + Nichol Eaton-Wolkiewicz of the Refined Truth LLC

cost: $199 ($100 non-refundable deposit due upon registration with balance due 14 days prior to event)


Nichol Eaton-Wolkiewicz

Professional bio: Nichol is a Licensed Psychologist and Certified School Psychologist practicing in New York and co-owner/co-founder of FMS Behavioral Health in Orchard Park, NY ( She specializes in the treatment of children, adolescents and families as well as conducting psychological, educational, and personality assessments.  In addition, she is a previous full-time faculty member at Medaille College where she served as Clinical Assistant Professor in the Doctoral Program of Clinical Psychology.  She left that full-time position to focus more on her practice and children, but remains affiliated with the College, and now serves as an adjunct instructor and clinical supervisor. In addition, she is a consulting partner in the doctoral internship program under the direction of Roswell Park and Oishei Children's Hospital. Nichol is a member of the Executive Board for the Buffalo Autism Project (BAP), a non-profit organization dedicated to supporting families with children on the autism spectrum and raising acceptance within the community and is active in consulting with local tv stations and school districts regarding child and adolescent mental health.  Dr. Eaton obtained her doctoral degree and a master’s degree in school psychology from Alfred University, a master’s degree in clinical psychology from West Chester University of Pennsylvania, and her bachelor's degree from St. Bonaventure University.   Previously as a researcher and consultant, she worked with agencies across the state of New York to support the implementation of evidence-based and quality services to children and families and served as adjunct faculty for St. Bonaventure University's Graduate Program in Counseling Education for 3 years. 

Real life bio: Nichol finds self-care joy in hot coffee consumed alone, glamping at her "summer home" (complete with a hot pink golf cart), fashion splurges, and aesthetic services to undo all the damage done by tanning booth obsessions in her teens. She values girls time over wine and authentic belly laughs to make things right in the world. Nichol and her husband are practically newlyweds (I do take two). With her farmer/engineer hubby, she spends her days balancing careers and a blended family,  shaping the lives of 2 young children (1 with High Functioning Autism/ADHD), navigating stepmotherhood of 2 adult children, doing all the adulting things that provide zero authentic satisfaction, and the operation of a hop farm when she hates beer and mud (Vertical Vines Hop Farm Lockport, NY).  At the end of the day, despite the chaos, Nichol thanks God (and because she is truly blessed. Words to live by, "Success is not owned, it's rented and rent is due everyday." 


Lisa Balderman

Professional Bio:  Lisa is a practicing therapist in New York and co-owner of FMS Behavioral Health in Orchard Park, NY (  She specializes in supporting individuals of all ages who struggle with depression, anxiety, chronic illness, grief and loss, life transition issues, and communication issues within families and/or significant others.  Lisa utilizes a person-centered, strengths-based framework while utilizing cognitive behavioral therapy to guide and teach her clients. Lisa graduated with her MSW from the University of Toronto in 2008 and has worked in various outpatient mental health settings in clinical as well as supervisory capacities prior to entering private practice (Director of Outpatient Mental Health services for a large non-for-profit agency in Western NY). Under Lisa’s leadership, the program grew from one location to three additional satellite clinics in order to better serve the local community by increasing access to services. Lisa currently mentors and supervises other social workers working towards obtaining their psychotherapy privilege licensure.  Lisa has a special interest in working with women who are working to recover from perinatal mood and anxiety disorders and has completed a postpartum support certificate training course.  Lisa has run groups catered specifically to this population and is also a member of the WNY perinatal mood and anxiety disorder task force. Lisa completed EMDR training in 2009 (an evidenced-based trauma treatment) and uses this therapeutic modality with her clients who suffer from PTSD and other related disorders.

Real life bio: Lisa is enthusiastic about exercise as part of her self-care routine and frequents local WNY women owned boutique gyms as well as her local JCC several times per week. Lisa loves good sushi, date nights with her husband and good friends, traveling, and recently took her first “ girls only vacation” as a mother  and plans to make these trips a part of her regular travel /self-care routine. Lisa loves fashion on a budget and can frequently be found adorning clothes inside out, wrinkled, and even backwards. Although she loves cute outfits, she proudly admits she has a terrible eye for detail. One of her favorite sayings borrowed from her late father is “Perfection is the enemy of good.” Lisa is one of five children from a close knit family and spends many hours a week with her family of origin and loves watching the bond develop between her children and their first cousins.  Lisa was born in Buffalo, NY and resides in the city with her husband and two young children.